A Journey From Your False Self (Defense) to Your True SELF (Essence)

False vs. True SELF
FALSE SELF – CONSEQUENCES OF UNRESOLVED TRAUMA:
- Weak or big EGO
- Stuck in low vibrational feelings, resisting them
- Avoids and represses emotional discomfort
- Opinionated and Judgmental
- Makes assumptions
- Co-dependent and/or fear of dependence
- Generally numb, void of blissful and joyful feelings
- Impaired porous or rigid boundaries
- Living in defense and disconnected
- Lack of presence
- Controlling and unable to surrender
- Maladaptive coping strategies
- Victim Mentality and unvalidated internal victim
- Collapses in the face of overwhelm, lack of resilience
- Conflict Avoidant
- Dysregulated Nervous System (Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn)
- Absence of bliss and flow state
- In denial of or avoidant of the spiritual realm
- Magical thinking and caught in illusions
- Mistakes trauma for intuition
- Blames the outside, never at fault
- Never or rarely apologizes proactively
- Outsources responsibility and emotionally immature
- Toxic shame-based living
- Denies or is unaware of/rejects one’s own needs
- Sense of entitlement/Ignoring of consent
- Victim to triggers
- Feels deeply unworthy and inadequate and rejects the self
- Feels disempowered
- Spiritually bypasses pain
- Lives in an emotional prison
- Connects a sense of worth to what one does or has
- Self-Absorbed with a limited perspective (me), the fascination of being “me”
- False compromises
- Hides one’s limitations, pretends
- Lack of self-competence
- Repressed or scared of anger
- Repressed and/or twisted sexuality
- Lives life rooted in fear
- Is reactive in relationships
- Re-creates painful childhood reality involuntarily over and over again
- Unaware of existing limiting beliefs that sabotage life (Incongruence between conscious/subconscious mind)
- Scared of vulnerability, unable to be vulnerable
- Lack of integrity
- At the mercy of addictive behavior
- Acting out or acting in
- Relationships based on trauma-bonding, insecure attachment style, Love Addiction, or Avoidance
- Unhealthy jealousy and sense of competition, tearing others down
- Overgives, under-gives, live in lack
- Emotional Starvation
- Thinking being who feels
- Caught in human suffering
- Wounded inner child
- Asleep soul
- A life lived with a sense of entitlement
- Living in Resistance to what is
HUMAN SUFFERING: THE FALSE SENSE OF SELF
TRUE SELF – CONSEQUENCES OF HEALED TRAUMA:
- Healthy Ego that helps us direct and experience life with intelligent awareness
- Surrenders to and recycles low vibrational feelings efficiently
- Accepting and comfortable with emotional discomfort
- Non-judgmental observer, open to different opinions
- Innocent inquiry
- Comfortable and willing to experience healthy dependence
- Alive feeling of being able to experience bliss and joy
- Aware of and reinforcing healthy boundaries
- Open-hearted connected living
- Presence
- Able to let go and surrender
- Adaptive Coping Strategies
- Honors victim feelings, able to ask for help
- Ready for challenges, high resilience
- Conflict Inviting
- Regulated Nervous System
- Experiences regular bliss & flow state
- Connection to and acknowledgment of the spiritual realm
- Rooted in reality with an attitude of “everything is possible”
- Connected to real gut/intuition
- Aware of and responsible for constant co-creation
- Has an easy time saying “I am sorry!”
- Emotional Maturity and Accountability
- Healthy shame-based living
- Aware of and able to communicate and meet one’s own needs
- Humility/Considerate of consent
- Leverages triggers efficiently
- Respects, honors and loves the self
- Feels fully empowered
- Willing and ready to address pain
- Lives with emotional freedom
- Connects sense of worth to who one is
- Able to see and consider more perspectives
- Healthy Compromises
- Accepting one’s limitations
- Presence of self-competence
- At peace with and able to express anger
- Integrated conscious sexuality
- Lives life rooted in love
- Is responsive in relationships
- Creates desired reality consciously with patience
- Aware of limiting beliefs, continuously work on reprogramming bringing the conscious and subconscious mind into more and more alignment
- Comfortable with and able to be vulnerable
- Rooted in integrity
- Authority over addictions
- Navigates and takes responsibility for the pain
- Sustains healthy intimate relationships, secure attachment style
- Healthy jealousy and sense of competition, lifting others up
- Balanced giving/receiving, able to call in abundance
- Emotional Fulfilment
- Feeling being who thinks
- Aware of the fact that we are spiritual beings having a human experience
- Healed and playful inner child
- Awakened soul
- A life lived in prayer and gratitude
- Living in total acceptance and surrender
HUMAN FREEDOM: THE TRUE SENSE OF SELF