Continued Emotional Healing
- With a safe and compassionate approach we start healing our emotional wounding & trauma
- Not feeling is the trauma! If you stay in the mind, you’ll never be able to fully heal
- Heart over mind approach important
- Trauma is stored in the body
- Healing can be done by oneself, in a group, with a trained guide like Dan as well as within the context of a relationship
- Healing is a journey that takes as long as it takes
- Patience and softness wins the game
- Move beyond basic mammalian survival programming
- Choose bottom-up approach over top-down
- The feeling is the healing
Stop Self-Betrayal
- Stopping self-betrayal creates a true sense of FREEDOM
- We betray ourselves when we:
- change who we are to get love, appreciation and approval from the outside
- are scared of and avoid conflict
- when we do not speak our mind, share how we feel or speak our truth when needed
- make false compromises
- feel deeply worthless because we are worthy per se
- Stopping self-betrayal allows you to live life from a place of deep love and soul
- Live life to the fullest, don’t hold back your feelings, and fully respect the feelings of others too
With Grace, Honor & Faith
- Stop giving your power away by allowing your emotions to rule you
- Stop projecting negative emotional power at another being (dishonoring both yourself and the other)
- Shadow of dishonour (suffering)
- To subdue any state of feeling is to dishonour and distrust the feeling, which prevents acceptance (GK 22*)
- Stop trying to change your feelings, or try to fix your mood, rather just allow it to pass through (Emotional Recycling)
- You cannot reach higher states of consciousness without first passing through your own suffering (GK 22*)
- Take full (emotional) accountability and birth true morality
- Dishonor increases suffering
- Grace meaning: Act with grace and consideration of your own feelings as well as others
- Honoring your feelings creates true emotional freedom
- All (things and people) is inter-connected
- Honor the creator
Solid Healthy Boundaries
- Personal boundaries are the limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships
- With healthy boundaries you are able to say NO, but also YES
- Healthy boundaries both protect you, but keeps your heart open for real connection
- Healthy boundaries mean the end of compromising your truth or values for others
- Healthy boundaries mean to share personal information in an appropriate way
- With healthy boundaries you know what you want, need and you can communicate that freely and efficiently
- Learn to accept and be mindful about other people’s boundaries too
- Setting healthy boundaries is essential if we want to be both emotionally and physically healthy
- Your boundaries teach other people a reasonable, safe and permissible way to behave and respond
- Communication is clear, firm and yet super loving
- Communicating and re-inforcing your healthy boundaries make you honor yourself and practices self-respect and self-care
Meeting Ones Needs
- Your needs are one of the corner stones of a happy life
- Needs are very complex as they hold a lot of trauma from childhood
- Most of us are ashamed for having needs in the first place
- Most of us are disconnected from our needs as our needs were too often not met
- Many are scared to appear needy because the energy of neediness repulses people
- We cary a lot of shame around having needs
- We need to learn the difference between unconscious neediness and having needs
- We need to learn that it is safe to have needs and that we deserve to have them met, especially in our significant relationships
- We need to learn to meet our own needs in a balanced way too
- Your needs are sacred
Solid Connection To Your Inner Child
- Our inner child is real and its alive
- It is both playful and magical as well as wounded and scared
- Your inner child wants a do-over, and it is your responsibility to give it to him if you want it to stop controling and sabotaging your life
- Establish a connection to it, and start living life in consideration of it
- Listen to it, aknowledge it and give it the space it deserves
- Listen to its feelings, to its fears, to its needs and wishes
- Aknowledge their sense of wonder, optimism, naiveté, love, play and uniqueness
- Learn to reparent yourself, become the responsible loving parent
- Have regular inner child repair days
- PLAY WITH IT
Fulfilling Sexuality
- A healthy conscious sexuality helps you massively regulate the Nervous System and creates real emotional and sexual intimacy between you and your partner
- Work through your fears and shame around your sexuality
- A fulfilling sex life is such a source of inspiration
- Your body is your temple, and your compass. Let it guide you!
- Focus on oxytocin inducing love making as bonds are only created when oxytocin is consistently released in response to a particular person
- Oxytocin increases trust by calming the amygdala (M. Kosfeld, et al.)
- DO NOT CHASE ORGASM, better do not come! (Read “cupid’s poisoned arrow”)
- Stop letting porn destroy your sex life and distort your reality
- Break the addiction cycle of orgasm to feel good and learn to circulate your sexual energy
Vulnerability
- We all long for real connection. In the absence of vulnerability there is no real connection
- Brené Brown said “Vulnerability is essential to whole-hearted living and it is the most accurate measurement of courage”
- Vulnerability means two things:
- Being vulnerable means to let yourself be seen, to let other people into your heart, and to honestly share what is moving for you – share yourself to the people you trust
- Your ability to be accepting of and comfortable with emotional discomfort without wanting to change it
- Vulnerability brings a certain risk – so be discerning about who you are being vulnerable with
- Don’t mistake vulnerability for weakness, this is not childhood anymore
- Dare greatly – one of the biggest life-changers for significant relationships
Nervous System Awareness & Regulation
- In today’s crazy fast world it is inevitable to be aware of the importance of the Nervous System
- A regulated Nervous System will contribute massively to your quality of life
- Recognise when your Nervous System is starting to feel dysregulated is the first step
- Interrupting the “downward spiral” by immediately regulating actions is step number 2 – drop everything you are doing to enter self-care and repair mode immediately
- Your breath is your saviour! Always.
- Other forms of Nervous System regulation exercises:
- Breathing exercises
- Gentle Yoga
- Weight lifting
- Weighted blankets
- Teddy bear cuddling
- Cuddling
- Touch (sit or lie down: put one hand on your heart and the other on your belly, 3 deep breathes)
- Walk in nature for at least 30 mins
- Cold bath or shower
- Warm bath
- Dancing
- Singing (vagus nerve stimulation)
- Shaking meditation (Kundalini)
- Trauma release exercises
- Eat something fatty (healthy fat like avocado)
- Floating
- Spa
- Turkish bath
- Paint
- Journal
- Write letters
- Go for a run
- FEEL YOUR FEELINGS
Honouring Your Body
- Move and take good care of your body
- Eat healthy, organic and nutritious food (mostly fresh veggies and fruits)
- Daily embodiment practice like Yoga, Qi Gong, Meditation, Conscious breathing, Stretching, Shaking, Dancing, Gym, Spinning
- Massage, SPA
- Take supplements (if needed, check your blood regularly)
- Stay hydrated, drink enough water
- Don’t drink alcohol (or in moderation)
- Avoid sugar, dairy and caffeine
- Stay away from drugs
- Get enough sleep and relaxation
- Get sun
- Eat slow
Understanding Energetics/Spirituality
- Know that every action you take, every word you speak, how you speak it immediately influences the co-creation of your reality (be impeccable with your words)
- Divine memory; all thoughts, feelings, and acts are recorded everywhere within the body of the universe (GK 22*)
- Your actions create ripples that will one day return to its point of origin. Awareness of Karma: you do injustice, it will come back to you.
- Invocation: Invite a higher presence into your life
- Approach life in a prayerful and reverent manner
- Allow the divine to interfere into your life
- Every feeling, mood or thought you have is directly put there by God for you to trust in (GK 22*)
- We are spiritual beings having a human experience (not the other way around)
Heart Wisdom
- It is the solid connection to your heart that makes you compassionate, non-judgmental and loving
- Re-establish your connection to this sacred place, and let it become stronger by the day
- Your heart is so incredibly wise, and such a great compass
- There is something about the heart region that is so powerful
- It’s the place where you get touched so divinely
- Set intentions to open and close your heart in adequate moments (awareness)
- Let your heart be loved, and love with your heart in return
- Practice open-hearted living
Live Life Rooted In Epic Love
- Love moves fear out of the way
- Epic (mature and authentic) love is your birthright
- Love changes everything
- Bring giving and receiving into balance
- Through healing your wounds around love, attachment and relationships, re-program the outdated template
- Epic love is the magic of life
- Love heals
*Inspired by the teachings of the Gene Keys – Number 22